A FB Friend

There are a number of types of friends..

Friends from School, those from the college, those who you meet in the office, those who you meet in the daily office hour train, many whom you make in the social media.. and so on. 

With the real friends whom I wish to call , those from the school , with whom perhaps you spend the longest ever time of your life and whom you have seen in different stages of growth, you can gel any day or any age of life just like that. There is never ever any inhibition to indulge.

With the ones whom you travel during the office hours may be friends of the moment. 

The ones you make in the office are the ones with whom you will perhaps share a lot of secrets unconsciously and perhaps they will make an opinion of you and you of theirs, so one needs to be very careful in indulging.

The most sensitive are perhaps the ones with whom you make friends on the social media. For they have come into your life by chance, from various social backgrounds different from your own. They are there because of commonality of a forum, idea, institution, some of your friends, because of your interest, or just by flirting of the media. It is good to make friends for your own good, and not be restrictive to be in closed network. That’s the purpose of Social Media.

While we tend to make the mistake of understanding the word “friend” in a singular concept, actually they have different meanings in different situations. So this is where the misunderstandings happen. You start expecting a newly made friend to accept you the way you have grown without realizing if the wavelength of the other person really matches yours to understand you as much. In the virtual world when we discuss and comment on similar topic there are possibilities that we may not fully understand the comment made by a friend and hence should not tend to assume our understanding as the final..

Also, When we make a judgment of a person's personality based on the short duration friendship, we are sure to be making a mistake ( not including Spamsters here ) , and even influencing the persons circle perhaps by our judgment.  Rather we should give a chance to form a better understanding, only because we have given the person a space in our friends group. And that is why I feel these unknown virtual friends are ones who give us opportunity to learn, restrain, inculcate manners and develop public relation qualities within us. 

:-) DKB