With due respect to high emotional temper about sexual life in the disability community I believe there are multiple issues here. Finding a partner can be difficult for anyone, but for disabled people, there are extra barriers in place. Many believe the biggest barriers stem from society’s often-skewed views of their capabilities and what it means to be disabled. The stereotype is one of loneliness; they don’t even have friends, except when an abled person takes them under their wing as a charity case. Many are shocked to learn that they have active social lives and romantic relationships, including sexual ones.
One of the biggest misconceptions when it comes to people with disabilities is that they do not have feelings or emotions, or they do not understand the true meaning of love or want a significant other when truthfully, they all have the same desires as everyone else.
For a person who gets affected after having a normal life it is easy for the spouse to continue the relationship as the love has developed. I have a niece who is now 27years of age, A nephew who is 29 years both affected physically from birth, having very normal social life and also well placed professionally, yet they are not finding love or sex life as would their biology demand. Getting a partner for a price is not a healthy idea, both feel. As that will be a care giver only and not a partner in life. Hence, when I see frustration and vocal expression of thoughts, my heart sinks, not with sympathy but with helplessness of our social standards. A human has to be judged, loved and partnered based on intellect and social behavior. However, in love as they say, we all also get attracted first by physical beauty.
Just for ideas here are some great positions :
I would like to profess the idea of professional sex workers to come in and form groups to serve the community. Marriage or a relationship is not the only idea, where commitment becomes a deterrent.
Get handicapped in love so your body forgets all strengths of movement and succumbs to the flow of sexual emotions that rules from the bliss that comes to fore.
