Cafune - running your fingers through your lover's hair

In a loving act of Cafune

The girl petted her lover

When he left all his shyness

And came to her for cover

In her he found a loving soother

A friend who could just be

He could not think any further

For he could not any other see

The cafune run of the fingers on hair

Brought him out of all the despair

In minutes he was the macho again

All it required was a loving care


:-) DKB

Eat Right is the mantra

I want to rise and feel good that's plain!

But at my present weight, I'll need a crane.

So grant me strength that I may not fall

Into the clutches of cholesterol.

Give me this day my daily slice

But, cut it thin and toast it twice.

I beg upon my dimpled knees,

Deliver me from jujubes.

Is all that they so important?

For a veggie like me it appears dotted

My taste buds seem to lose their function

I wonder if it’s worth negotiating this junction

Eat a sumptuous breakfast

Have a normal diet for lunch

Carve for self a light supper cast
Live veggie and not bother what you munch..

:-) DKB

WHY DO WE SHOUT WHEN ANGRY ?

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled 'n asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained..

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper 'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other 'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said. 'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

When a person is angry

His senses are very hungry

Their heart start pumping hard

Between them they fall far apart

The pot starts to take the boil

From its nostril blows smoke in coil

Look at it when it expands

More space is what it demands

When both of them live in love

Voice seem to take the lowest curve

Whisper sounds like a loud noise
Love blossoms with muted voice

:-) DKB

The trilogy of success

I read the Bhagwadgita from a different perspective. This dialogue between Krishna and Arjuna has maintained its relevance across time and tide and it still has its own significance in the contemporary world. While Arjuna is the embodiment of man in his material form, Krishna is the soul personified. The dialogue between them tries to resolve the conflict of values between the mind and the heart or the body and the soul.

Arjuna being his favourite, Krishna would do anything to preserve him. Krishna knew that as a warrior, Karna had an edge over Arjuna so upon his advice, Kunti revealed her motherhood to Karna and begged him to give away his protective “kavach” and “kundal” and“daanveer” Karna in his self destructive generosity gives it away. Still Krishna was apprehensive and he advised Arjuna that no matter how strong the odds are against you, life gives that one opportunity to everyone. During the battle, when Karna’s chariot wheel was stuck in the mud, he got down from his chariot to push its wheel and it was during that moment of his vulnerability, Krishna directed Arjuna to slay Karna.

Besides the issue of morality in this, what is worth pondering is that one has to recognize and avail the opportunity like how Krishna could do and direct Arjuna to act upon. Ramesh kumar was a sales executive in an electronic office equipment company. Very enthusiastic about his work, he used to make sales visits to various corporate offices. One day he confronted Mr.Gurumoorthy a very senior person from one such multi-national company and they exchanged greetings. During the conversation, Mr.Gurumoorthy offered him job in his company. Being a youngster who had just begun his career, it was hard for him to believe that he was cut out for such a big opportunity. Ramesh was in a state of conflict for two reasons. Firstly, whether he should leave his comfort zone and change his job which was just a year old? Secondly, he wondered whether it would be ethical on his part to cross over to one of his company’s customer. Resultantly, he shied away and did not go to meet Mr.Gurumoorthy After six years and two jobs later he still looked at that past as a missed opportunity. There was no external indication, nor any compelling signal from anywhere which could tell him to avail the opportunity that came by him six years ago but having lost it, he regrets later on hindsight.

In management parlance, success is the meeting point between your efforts and the opportunity passing by. For taking the right action, one should have the ability not only to take the action, but also to deliver what one undertakes to do. It is not only about the opportunity to change jobs, but even while at our day to day work, we come across several opportunities to fulfil even the smallest of objectives. It could be about using the help of a colleague to meet a deadline, or that one minute opportunity to impress the CEO in the elevator, or converting a prospective client for that matter. Our success lies in recognizing those opportunities and converting them into success.

The trilogy of success has corners namely opportunity, ability and action. The resultant space enclosed within this triangle is success.

Our mind, the Krishna should guide our heart, the Arjuna.

:-) DKB

Aeolist - A pompous windy bore who pretends to have inspiration.

The days when the Ramayana was written

The days when Sanskrit was spoken

The people were pious and heart was pure

It may sound like myth or a fiction for sure

The world has seen the scenes of carnage

Various thoughts have given their patronage

In the process there has been development of Language

Now we find our self in a quagmire of garbage.

I say so because people are myopic

Brotherhood of man is a thought so poetic

It is a stage now set for the cheats and their specialist
Humans will soon get a synonym in “aeolist“

:-) DKB

Books and Coffee

They say Love is the eternal clasp

When one heart meets the other in a clap

Sitting on a couch at the corner nook

Sipping on coffee and reading a book

Coffee table was designed just for fun

The Coffee table book is now on the run

You have a book on the city and the town

On an antique and a game and even on a clown

When you want the comfort and eternal peace

There is nothing that can put you totally at ease

Food may be the way through your stomach says the cook

Still nothing like a cup of coffee and a soothing little book

:- ) DKB

Petrichor - The smell of rain on dry ground.

The world is gloomy and the weather dry

When there is no rain for quite a while

People drink juices of different colors

And we miss the blossom of lovely flowers

On the magic day the white sky turns dark

Children look up with their eyes full in spark

The sudden change in the climate is cozy

Breeze romances and the leaves go prosy

Rocky pavement with oil that went yellow

Now appear like juicy marsh mellow

With the first drop ladies jump off their chore

Dance to the rhythm enjoying the bliss of petrichor

;-) DKB

RUNCATION - act of weeding

A farmer waits for the rains to come

So that he can make a purposeful sum

Giving his fields the second Stirring

Immediately before he sows for the spring

Slowly the rains come in pouring showers

The field becomes muddy and full of wild flowers

With no machines or tools in hand

Softly he descends on the hill of sand

To save the crop he has a mission

With friends and relatives he starts runcation

By the sun set he is smiling again

Sure to sell the crop and reap the gain

:-) DKB

Life is a Do-It-Yourself Project

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family.

He would miss the pay check  but he wanted to retire. They could get by. The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favour  The carpenter said yes, but his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. "This is your house," he said, "my gift to you."

What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. If we build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort. Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized that we would have done it differently.

Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely.

It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity.

The plaque on the wall says, "Life is a do-it-yourself project."

Your attitudes and the choices you make today will be your life tomorrow, build it wisely.

:-) DKB

Grace

“Grace exists inside of all of us and around us. It is our inner beauty that radiates outward, touching everyone we meet. It is that unseen hand that comes from the divine, raising us up when we most need it." 

enjoy my submission :-) 

I don’t have to pray to see this morning's rays

It's typical of your grace in display

The sound of your heart is the melody

I'll always want on replay

If I will ever succeed in this race

It’ll be totally your goodness and your grace

All through my way to this place

I've never lost the feeling of the warmth of your embrace

Amazing grace… how sweet the sound 

That saved a wretch like me

I once was lost, but now am found

Was almost blind, but now I see

It was grace that taught my heart to fear,

And grace my fears relieved

How precious did that grace appear

The hour I first believed

Yes, when this flesh and heart shall fail 

And mortal life shall cease

With grace shall be then set to sail

Into a life of joy and peace.

:-) DKB

The 163-year old telegram service in the country — the harbinger of good and bad news for generations of Indians — is dead

Like all good things

One day they have to die

The Telegram was yesterday buried

Millions wished it bye bye.

Remember once did receive a “taar”

Was referred to thus when wire came from far

The announcement was in words very few

My grandfather had died 3 days back we just knew

With tears the newlywed would wait to hear

When her jawaan on the border will do come near

The order of one who had finished an interview

Would bring in the joy of starting life a new

With Morse codes it relayed signals

Tap tapping creating music

To the hero of codes they were jingles

And for whom it was meant it was magic

Lawyers, Doctors, housewives and all

Film Directors to the Marriage hall,

Now use hi-tech SMS, Mails, chats et al

Dear Telegram, you were once the best of all

:-) DKB

There are days when I look in the mirror and think, not bad, could be worse. Then there are days I look at my reflection and mumble expletives while stripping off a closet full of clothes. Nothing I try on looks good.

These are usually the days I receive a random compliment, like “Hey, your bald is shining today,” or “Did you lose weight?” And before I know it, I'm skipping through the day with a smile on my face. The image in the mirror looks a little better than it did an hour ago even though I didn't change a thing. Why? Because, someone else helped me, see myself in a different light. I needed to step away from the mirror.

Looking at your own writing is like looking in the mirror. Some days you read through your work and think, “Not bad, could be worse.” and then there are days that you convince yourself that everything in front of you is junk and no one is ever going to enjoy reading anything you write.

You compare your words and tales to those that have found “success” much like we compare ourselves to the bodies splattered across those special magazines viewed by those who really matter ..with a perfect “v” shaped torso undulated with the right curves standing on equally undulated pair of legs.

Some days we feel like we have just as much to offer and others we convince ourselves we will never compare.

:-) DKB

Dedicated to Damini - The Girl from My India

I thought you’d live forever

Oh Damini our little girl,

I thought you’d always be here

Thought you’d always see the world.

As days went on You got sicker,

It started taking over

As the organs got thicker.

For eleven long days you fought,

For eleven long days with pain,

Finally it finished you

And we’d never see you again.

It left so much unsaid,

So many things secret.

You probably could've helped

And this is our biggest regret.

You were a selfless girl,

Wanting to welcome the year new,

But now those days you spent are lost

And I know that we’ll miss you.

How many more small girls will pay

How many more citizens will pray

How many more will be treated as clay

How many more will need to be a prey

Enough is enough oh mankind

To play please make a new find

Don’t you dare another grind

Lest our race will pay a big fine

Please don’t make your actions sinister

Place your organs in protective plaster

Make your conscience your guiding master

Damini is also just like our sister

:-) DKB

English is a " Phunny " language

Lets face it

English is an obtuse language.

There is no egg in the eggplant

No ham in the hamburger

And neither pine nor apple in the pineapple.

English muffins were not invented in England

French fries were not invented in France.

We sometimes take English for granted

But if we examine its paradoxes we find that

Quicksand takes you down slowly

Boxing rings are square

And a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.

If writers write, how come fingers don’t fing.

If the plural of tooth is teeth

Shouldn't the plural of phone booth be phone beeth

If the teacher taught,

Why didn't the preacher praught.

If a vegetarian eats vegetables

What on earth does a humanitarian eat!?

Why do people recite at a play

Yet play at a recital?

Park on driveways and

Drive on parkways

How can the weather be as hot as hell on one day

And as cold as hell on another

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy

Of a language where a house can burn up as

It burns down

And in which you fill in a form

By filling it out

And a bell is only heard once it goes!

English was invented by people, not computers

And it reflects the creativity of the human race

Which of course isn't a race at all

That is why When the stars are out they are visible

But when the lights are out they are invisible

And why it is that when I wind up my watch

It starts

But when I wind up this poem

It ends.

:-) DKB

* credits to the anonymous person who wrote it earlier *

Water - Coimbatore prays with lines in queue

Water, water where are you

Coimbatore prays with lines in queue

You are seen in pockets few

Morning times we miss the dew

Water is for everyone,

Cleaning, washing, having fun.

Water can be serious though,

So try not and let it go

To save the world now we must act

And use our water well,

Change our ways, or we will pay,

In this world we want to dwell.

Never let your taps run,

Turn them off as soon as you’re done.

Don’t waste time in Bath take a shower,

Your harvested water should be used on a flower

Water has been here in the beginning,

And water will be here until the end

Water is always reliable

And water is a human’s friend

Drip, Drip...

Here it comes,

From the sky...

On the ground it runs.

Filling the Earth, with the food of life

Seeds will bud, and burst into life.

Birds will wash, Kids will play,

Splish, Splash, Hip Hip Hurray.

:-) DKB

A Tribute to our Jawans - At Uttaranchal.

I see you standing among them all

Standing so strong, proud and tall

The nation looks at you with wetted eyes

As you bring back helpless citizens alive

Brothers and Sisters of the Armed force

Your ability and agility is our resource

We are obliged you are there

When our nation needs your care

The catastrophe in Uttaranchal

You were there before even a call

Without food not rest you toiled the way

Tear drops fell like rain that day

:-) DKB

http://www.indianexpress.com/picture-gallery/uttarakhand-floods-rescue-gathers-steam-50000-still-stranded/2931-4.html

मुझे आवाज दे देना

मुझे आवाज दे देना

कभी आइसक्रीम लाओ तो,

कभी पुलाव पकाओ  तो,

कभी पिकनिक पे जाओ तो..

मुझे आवाज दे देना.....,

वॉलेट में माल ज्यादा हो,

जो खरीददारी का इच्छा हो,

कभी दावत में जना हो,

किसी को डिनर पे  बुलाना हो

मुझे आवाज दे देना.....

तो मुझे परेशान मत करना

कभी किसी से हो लड़ना

किसी शादी में जना हो,

जैसे ही शुरू खाना हो, ....

मुझे आवाज दे देना.

मुझे तुम भूल मत जाना.

सुनो तुम भूल मत जाना.

मुझे आवाज दे देना .....

:-) DKB

Actually Poetry writing is a simple trick

Actually Poetry writing is a simple trick

When you sit down you have lots to pick

With a single idea you may start the tick

And then comes the adding by the flick

What I do always is select a cause

For I can’t write in length without a pause

Google some words for the best rhyming

For my poem has to match the tune and timing

You wanted me to write something on me

I sat down instantly for I was free

Your asking was not for a big green tree

Wow! I managed sometime over tea

I stand up whenever I'm called

For I know I’ll lose it if it slips from my bald

Or for some errand my flow is stalled

Then I’ll miss the distance I've crawled

Friendship for me is dear to heart

Many know and value many think it’s a fart

I like to travel in a crowded cart

That’s the sheer truth .. jokes apart.

Every human has a child in them

For me my friends are like little gem

I can hear some loud Ahem Ahem !

But know well I’ll keep ‘em as my heart’s stem

:-) DKB

But nothing’s stopping me from being.

I am the child that looks healthy and fine.

I was born with ten fingers and toes.

But something is different, when I express,

And what it is, nobody knows.

I am the child that struggles in the Group,

Though they say that I’m perfectly smart.

They tell me I’m misunderstood — can learn if I try –

But I don’t seem to know where to start.

I am the child that fidgets and squirms

Though I’m told to sit still and be good.

Do you think that I choose to be out of control?

Don’t you know that I would… if I could?

I am the child with a soft little heart

Though I act like I don’t really care.

Perhaps there’s a reason I was made this way –

Sometimes I make many stare.

For I am the child who laughs around

And needs to be accepted and valued too.

I am the child that is misunderstood.

I am different – but look just like you.

I am the child who has again resolved –

To be the way I only know to be

I’ll try to fit in and I want to be liked,

But nothing’s stopping me from being.

:-) DKB

A FB Friend

There are a number of types of friends..

Friends from School, those from the college, those who you meet in the office, those who you meet in the daily office hour train, many whom you make in the social media.. and so on. 

With the real friends whom I wish to call , those from the school , with whom perhaps you spend the longest ever time of your life and whom you have seen in different stages of growth, you can gel any day or any age of life just like that. There is never ever any inhibition to indulge.

With the ones whom you travel during the office hours may be friends of the moment. 

The ones you make in the office are the ones with whom you will perhaps share a lot of secrets unconsciously and perhaps they will make an opinion of you and you of theirs, so one needs to be very careful in indulging.

The most sensitive are perhaps the ones with whom you make friends on the social media. For they have come into your life by chance, from various social backgrounds different from your own. They are there because of commonality of a forum, idea, institution, some of your friends, because of your interest, or just by flirting of the media. It is good to make friends for your own good, and not be restrictive to be in closed network. That’s the purpose of Social Media.

While we tend to make the mistake of understanding the word “friend” in a singular concept, actually they have different meanings in different situations. So this is where the misunderstandings happen. You start expecting a newly made friend to accept you the way you have grown without realizing if the wavelength of the other person really matches yours to understand you as much. In the virtual world when we discuss and comment on similar topic there are possibilities that we may not fully understand the comment made by a friend and hence should not tend to assume our understanding as the final..

Also, When we make a judgment of a person's personality based on the short duration friendship, we are sure to be making a mistake ( not including Spamsters here ) , and even influencing the persons circle perhaps by our judgment.  Rather we should give a chance to form a better understanding, only because we have given the person a space in our friends group. And that is why I feel these unknown virtual friends are ones who give us opportunity to learn, restrain, inculcate manners and develop public relation qualities within us. 

:-) DKB

To quit or not to quit ?

Anonymous asked:    Is it wrong that I consider it cowardly and selfish to quit because you lost a patient due to your own fault (not completely yours as you said).

If you have lost a patient through your mistake the least you could do in their legacy is use this lesson to never make this mistake again and use it to save future patients. I know everyone is human and some people can't deal with it, but by quitting, that patient has quite literally died for nothing

Hello again anon: I think some doctors quit because they truly believe that it would be better for their current and future patients. In order to treat patients, you have to be confident in your own ability, knowledge and skills. Not in an arrogant, overbearing way but you need to believe that you are doing the best for your patient in order to treat them. Some treatments are long and/or painful with potentially life threatening complications.

To subject another human to these things, you have to be convinced that you are doing the best for the patient. If a doctor looses his/her confidence in skills, knowledge and decision making they wouldn't be able to continue doing their job because they believe it would be harming the patient and “do no harm” is central to medical ethics. I hope that helps?

:-) DKB

When You Are Wrongly Accused

False accusations and gossip can destroy lives, even if the accused is innocent. If your reputation is under attack, Dr. Phil has advice on taking your power back:

• Accept that there is no way you can erase what has happened. Even though the accusations may be unfair and untrue, the situation is real. You need to get out of denial about that in order to deal with it in the here and now.
• Watch your catastrophic language. If you keep saying this is "horrible" and your life is "ruined," you add to the stress. Put things in perspective. An innocent child in a burn unit of a hospital is horrible. Perhaps your situation isn't as tragic. Perhaps your life isn't ruined, but just damaged. Change your internal dialogue, and you will feel better.
• You Create Your Own Experience. The first person you've got to repair your reputation with is you. Are you a bad guy? Are you a bad citizen? Do you hurt people? Do you commit crimes? The answer is probably no. Stop feeling guilty, or being angry, with yourself. Own your mistakes, forgive yourself for them but don't continue to beat yourself up. Life is not a success-only journey. Learn from your bad decisions and move on.
• Ask yourself what you would like to see happen in order to clear your name. Is there anything that anyone " the authorities, your co-workers or someone in the community " can do that could ever make the situation better.
• Begin with your inner circle. Start rebuilding your reputation with your family, close friends and neighbours  You make sure they know the truth. When your inner circle knows who you really are, they will go out into the world with the truth, and it will create a ripple effect. And if you are confronted with these false accusations again, you look the person in the eye, and you tell your side of the story. You don't need to bring this up the rest of your life, but in your immediate circle and in this immediate time, you want to step up and tell them the truth.
• Understand that people might come forward to admit they were wrong. And they might not. It is up to you to put this behind you. Give yourself what you wish you could receive from others. You need to say to yourself, "I know I didn't do this. And I will give myself what I wish the community, the authorities, etc., would give me."
• You Teach People How to Treat You. Dr. Phil tells his guest, "If you walk into the world, and you're hanging your head, and you kind of don't want to look anybody in the eye, and you're shameful, then people will treat you that way. You've got to decide, I did not do this crime. I am innocent. I've owned my bad decision, which comes with being young, and I am not going to hang my head in shame.' If you do, you will engage people that way. That's the fundamental way for you to get through this. You have to be your best friend, and you have to decide who you are at the core." Begin the process of closure by not reacting to what you think people are saying about you. If you allow yourself to be intimidated, feel guilty or shrink away because of what people think, you are putting yourself in a prison.
• Don't try to address every accusation. "If you decide to start defending yourself, that will become your full-time job," Dr. Phil tells a guest. "If you answer every story, every piece of gossip, every allegation in your life, that's all you will ever do." You will be completely consumed by this and it will take over your life.
• Stop reacting to the rumours. "You give it legs by reacting to it," Dr. Phil tells his guest. Don't draw attention to yourself defending the rumour. "You need to give yourself permission to just live your life. If there are people out there who think something about you that you don't like, then those won't be your friends." There will be other people who will like and respect you for who you are, and they will be your friends.
• Stand up for yourself and say, "I'm taking my power back. I'm not going to give them the power to pick my feelings. They're wrong and I can look myself in the mirror knowing the truth." Dr. Phil tells a guest, "You have to decide that you believe in who you are, what you stand for, and what you do, and you just need to go forth and do it." You need to walk forward from the situation. "Who you are and what you do, that will win out in time."
• Know that it's normal to feel a twinge of guilt even if you're completely innocent. We always hear about guilt by association. But there is also guilt by accusation. People hear something negative and tend to believe it. If you accuse a person unfairly, he/she still has that twinge " just from having the finger pointed at him/her.
• Don't fall into the trap of acting out with non-directional frustration. The stress that comes with being wrongly accused can lead a person to act out with those closest to them, like a spouse or child. Remember that the enemy isn't your loved one; it's an outside force.

:-) DKB