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Thursday, December 22, 2022

GOODNESS

It's really a wonder that I haven't dropped all my ideals, because they seem so absurd and impossible to carry out. Yet I keep them, because in spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart, and as long as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then there will always be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be. And I firmly believe that people bring solace in all troubles.

I was thinking deep today and wanted to analyze what the difference is:

THE GOOD are those who have a great fragrance around them, they are always there with the nicest things to say and they will always be someone upon who one can look up to emulate. They are that fresh flower which shines in full bloom, attracts your attention and brings a great feel inside you, making the moment happy.

THE VERY GOOD are those that have all the qualities of those that are good, but will go a step further and help you in your problems, show you the best way forward and perhaps be there by your side to console , just like the flower in a bouquet well arranged and brings the comfort of happiness.

THE SUPER –GOOD are those that have both the above qualities but then just like the bouquet after the party will hug you, let you unfold the arrangement and also split the same. They will be dropped off at sometime, left on a corner or even more, just like the lover would tear off petal by petal in fond memories of the lover, rendering them scattered on the floor.

While one remains on its stem, the other shares, but the best ones allow you to squeeze them to vent your emotions and are left alone. Very, very alone themselves.

 

 







A flower blooms in the for a great morning view
Overlapping its beauty drenched in the dew
Admired, loved and respected for its being
Inspiring it becomes for those who are seeing

Trimmed, cured and decked up in a bouquet
Allows the artist to make a statement say
In the heat of a party it makes its sway
The giver and the taker it is a greeting way

When the dusk fall, the emotions grow deep
Squeezed, embraced, from a folded fist it is seen
Withered by a petal, one at a time
Alone it remains in the life of its prime.
 

Saturday, June 4, 2022

DESPITE THAT / INSPITE OF THAT - CONUNDRUM.

 


 

Part 1 : Year 1991.

 

It was just a few weeks since I started Akshay Silvers in Saibaba colony considered to be a suburb of Coimbatore. The show room with a stylish decor and very brightly lit exteriors was an eye-catcher to the evening walkers and the veritable shopping crowd of the adjacent residential area.  

That Friday, I had wanted to go out with my wife for a wedding reception. It was around 8 pm. Two lovely ladies walked in the showroom. I had not yet enrolled any helper as yet. So excited by the customer's elite outlook positioned myself behind the counter with my newly acquired "pleasing smile” 

They were looking for something to gift in a wedding reception. The new simmering articles looked inviting to them. I was just learning how to weigh them on a physical balance and then calculate the price based on the day's board rate. 

By the time the entire showcase was on the counter I noticed the time is 9.45. my wife was waiting at home. They had appreciated every article I showed and very liberal in giving me the complements for the ensemble.

Just then, one of their husband arrived to pick them up. The lovely ladies said it was Ashtami tithe today and that they have liked my collection, they will come back soon.

 

 

Part 2 : Year 2004

 

It was just now that I have made a sea change in my career. My new creations were being appreciated in the market and I was yet to overcome the whelming I got by being featured in Outlook magazine cover story. 

My wife and I were giving our final folds to the newly arrived designs and were packing to leave when this lovely lady escorted by her driver entered the store. Reluctantly I welcomed her. She had plans to buy a few good dresses for her maiden travel to Singapore. 

I showed her one that would look good for her age; she said the XYZ store gives her good discounts 

I showed her another one; she said the ABC store always offered her 30%discounts 

She asked me to show more , I did one more and she said that the EFG store would even bring and show her at home and collect payment from her office. 

She asked to show more, I said I am done and that I have no interest in showing more as she would not like my collections. She said do you know who I am; I am the judge at the sales tax office. I took all the dresses in the counter and gave it to my wife to pack and put them back on the racks. 

Sensing what is going on she asked me why I was clearing the desk. I said sorry ma'am I do not have the required credentials to cater to you. What would you like, tea or coffee? 

She started reasoning with me while my wife was stone surprised on my reaction, but I had decided. 

While I do not have any feel for the customer I chose to loose, the two ladies who actually did ragging to a 19 year old late evening became my best customers and have introduced many high profile clients that made my silver shop famous and successful.

Thursday, May 12, 2022

WHY I BOUGHT A TAMIL SONG CASSETTE - NAAN PADUM PAADAL


PHOTO: A throw back, from the youthful days of 1992, I was asked to handle a session on group dynamics at the Rotaract District training conclave.



The old school of thoughts believe Personality Development should start early in a student's life which is a true reflection of their inner being. It can be defined as a set of traits that shape the inner and outer being in a person with organized pattern of behavior that makes a person distinctive. Things like Time management, Public Speaking talents, Communication skills etc are things that need to be imbibed early in life. I firmly believe that Top 12 Most Important Personality Development Tips that a budding student should prepare at the beginning of a career are

• Know yourself. Obviously before you get on developing something you need to know all about it first. ...

• Bring positivity in your outlook. ...

• Have an opinion. ...

• Meet new people. ...

• Read more often and develop new interests. ...

• Be a good listener. ...

• Be courteous. ...

• Work on your Body Language.

Well it was 1984, as Chairman of Cosmo Jaycees Youth club I had planned a Time management course for our members. All of us were friends from the same school and most of us were in the 10th STD baring a few seniors who have not yet left the club as others did when I took up the chairmanship. 

Our Course Faculty was a hon. Jaycee of our parent chapter. Those days there were just land line numbers and the members were informed by a pre announcement or by India Post card. For other club members who would love to come to our club programs the information used to go by the EVENTS TODAY column on most Newspapers. 

It was customary to visit the chief guest a day before the event to finalize the detailing. Upon reaching the staff quarters where Jc. Rm.R used to live, with my secretary (those days the entire board members used to hang out together) we were greeted warmly and asked to sit in the cozy sofa. The planning for the event started and we all settled for a box of colored chalk pieces should be made available for the faculty to conduct the course. 

Then an unusual question surprised us. Rm.R asked us what the budget for his memento is. My secretary and I looked at each other, I never thought we had to give something to our parent club member who is coming as a faculty, yet we did not open our mouth. We hardly had extra money in our club to spend lavishly as all of us were students and were enjoying club life with our pocket money. I meekly said, Sir we are planning to buy you a book which will cost us Rs 65/-, and he immediately said , don’t worry, I am planning to buy the latest release of  songs of “ Naan Padum Padal” the Cassette will cost you Rs. 35/-  The fact that there was a demand surprised us but the later part of choice made us laugh and accept. 

On the day of the event we all assembled at our regular meeting point – the Kikani High School Class room which was not yet ready. We were in for a course on Time Management but the watchman there was not in time and we had to wait for over an hour standing below a shady tree. Understanding the predicament our faculty suggested a change in the venue, we were not prepared! He took us to his office in GCT. Soon we were inside the immaculate Geological Laboratory of the Government College of Technology, Coimbatore. 

The sheer high ceiling and the college flavor surrounded by the beautiful landscaped garden outside and the meteoric sediments that looked like rocks from all around the world in the inside, gripped us for the next few hours while we underwent an extensive step by step course on how to plan our 24 hours in a calendar day. He was very kind enough to arrange for tea for the snacks we had already brought that made for a decent fellowship time. We learnt the custom of giving a memento to our guest who we invited thereafter and realized we were always double return gifted. 

When I see in the social media and hear friends who make thousands on a ID course and that too for the management and employees of great enterprises where the employees are required to attain some degree of smartness, feel so blessed that I grew up amongst the top notch ID faculties whose down line today are international coaches and Corporate leaders.

Saturday, April 30, 2022

THE LAMPS HAVE ARRIVED IN THE CITY

I started a small jewelry shop (1991) in a downtown residential area of Coimbatore. While many of my age would be enjoying a TV show or a Cricket match, in my late teens I had already become used to a 9am to 10 pm routine, sitting in the small 100 sq feet show room. 

With a meager investment sponsored by my family’s unused silver utensils and artifacts, which I melted to procure new materials, the show room started getting noticed by the nearby residents and soon became a favorite among the discerning lady customers. Mostly those who would like to get their puja articles polished. 

I ventured out to embellish the show cases with artistically designed Silver articles that caught the affluent and very soon the showroom became famous for its giftables. Relatives of the neighborhood society added up as new customer base. My pleasant manners and never say no for anything, and my ability to procure and deliver became the story of success. Soon I was able to establish a 250 sq showroom with new interiors and added staff. The inventory grew and the variety now was procured from as far as Calcutta and Mumbai, and manufactures from Chennai and Delhi became my source and suppliers. This was the time of growth and many corporate started giving me institutional orders for bulk supply. My creative ideas and memento designs were a new innovation which was widely appreciated. 

MARKETING GENIOUS 

One day, a friendly customer dropped by to invite me for their housewarming function. They discussed the elaborate plans they have made and also the large amounts they were going to spend for the return gifts to their relatives. While in the talk they expressed their misfortune of a setback they got from a supplier of silver gifts from Chennai. Looking at the opportunity I took the discussion forward and changed their mind from giving traditional flower baskets to Italian bowls. 

THE MANUFACTURER

Obviously, the order was huge and the customer, though very well known did apprehend my capacity to deliver. The function was in fifteen days and the goods had to be ready and delivered within this time for the event. The Italian bowls had to be made in Delhi and the very pious 5 Kg Nakshi Puja lamp set had to be made in Chennai. It was those days when these kinds of lamps were never kept ready as off the shelf product. But with meticulous planning and sampling done in time the orders were placed. 

CRISIS MANAGER 

Event date: Oct 15th.    |  Date of Delivery: Oct 13th. 

On the Twelfth night the transporter informed that the goods from Delhi have been detained in a check post near Tirupur, and on the following afternoon the manufacturer in Chennai expressed delayed delivery due to power shortage in their area. No amount of hunting for a agent who could solve the situation could help as these were those days when Mobile phone were not introduced, yet work happened with faith and sincerity. 

I negotiated with the manufacturer in Chennai to arrange for a hand delivery by finishing the product before 14th evening and sending an errand boy via the last train Cheran Express to Coimbatore. 

For the stranded goods in check post I made my wife substitute me in the showroom and decided to deal with it personally. After four hours of negotiation and hunting the parcel out of the yard reached base at ten in the evening. During this entire ordeal, the customer was told only the half truth. They had already given up on the Puja Lamps and arranged for an old one as substitute. The gifts that were absolutely necessary were provided by me from my existing stock and the rest had to be delivered later for distribution. 

THE DELIVERY 

DATE Oct 15th TIME 03.00 AM

With the Italian bowls scattered all over the showroom counter, each piece meticulously weighed and appropriately positioned in the respective boxes made to size in preparedness were neatly gift packed. My customer’s two daughters who were full of sympathy for me helped in labeling the boxes with the receiver’s name tag. By 4.00 AM the boxes were delivered. The lamps were nowhere in the scene, and I had not informed them about the emergency plan I had made as If it failed I had no alternative. 

Going straight to the Railway station I waited for the most respectable chariot – the Cheran Express that chugged into the station dot on time. My angel from Chennai handed me the carton box. The lamps have arrived in the city. I could now afford a rash ride on my trusted two wheeler right up to the newly decorated beautiful bungalow which was decked up like a new bride ready for the grand homam and grihapravesh by her owners. 

I sat down on a plastic chair kept in the main hall, opened the carton and assembled the shimmering Nakshi Lamp almost 4 feet in height. Tear drops fell from the eyes of the lady of the house. 




The nature of being an entrepreneur means that you fully embrace ambiguity and are comfortable with being challenged regularly. I find people taking the shopkeeper for granted and especially when they are small business owners. We must understand those who try to satisfy us with their limited resources and ability they become the packers and movers, Marketing head and also crisis managers, all in one where lakhs are paid in big corporate houses for such posts. 








Sunday, January 16, 2022

TAKE IT EASY

Don't follow in any footprints, make your own prints. ...


It's always said that we should be leading a life so that others will get motivated and follow our footprints and that we should always choose the most difficult ways of doing things as that is more challenging instead of going through an easy way


I remember my school days when I used to attend exams and there used to be different types of questions the one word answers the match the following essay types and the paragraph types and the only thing that used to run on my mind is bank the small points first and then if there is time left we can elaborate on the essay types and paragraph answers. 


For me my life should be full of fun, success in what I do and filled with satisfaction which generally comes if I take things that come easy. I don't have to prove to anyone by trying to do things that are difficult, actually there is more success and thrill in wining than trying to win. 


One must learn in life to take things more lightly. The world is always changing. Learn how to allow for it.

Friday, January 14, 2022

BROKEN

Past forty, there are many experiences that break us, break us emotionally, break us economically and sometimes break us from the very support system we rely on, our family.  But hey, if you’ve heard that you’re supposed to be strong you're not the only one. Society has taught us to believe that sadness isn’t an appropriate response.

Having a broken heart is one of the most painful experiences imaginable. The pain and loss are suffocating. You wonder if the weight of the pain will ever leave you; if you will ever be able to laugh, smile, or enjoy life again.

One of the most frequent questions I get is, “How can I recover from a broken heart?” The most common advice from others is that time heals all wounds.  But that is not true.  Time alone does not heal the wounds.  I have met many people who have carried a hurt around for decades.  Time did not heal their wounds.  Walking around with that pain became normal.

The only way forward for me to is to admit it, admit the cause of unhappiness, and admit that the heart is broken. This makes things quite at ease as then the mind is rested, the issue is rested and the heart is back to its best work, pumping. Then, decide you are ready for healing. Deciding you want to heal is the next big step. Letting go, forgiving, and healing takes great strength.

It does take time to heal, but time alone will not heal your broken heart.  In order to experience freedom, dream again, and live up to your fullest potential, you have to move beyond the pain.  This journey will be challenging, but also so beautiful if you will trust yourself to lead you. 



Broken clouds pour out rain

Broken bones give strength again

Broken soil sets the fields

Broken crop yield the seeds

But broken seeds give life to new

Broken buds host the lovely dew

Broken glasses make a kaleidoscope

Broken journey gives plans of hope

The feeling of been broken is reassurance

For greatness emerge with powered penance

Shimmers are a result of polished corn

Hearts may break but the broken move on.