ASSUME : to accept something as true without question or proof.

True sadness is when someone still thinks you’re the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality.  This is especially true of the people you have grown up with, our cousins, our peers from college and to an extent childhood friends. They take it for granted by assuming you are the same as they used to know you before.

Why do People assume:
We all have to operate on assumptions to a point in the formation of our opinions. But past a certain point its lazy mindedness. As people get experience in life, they start to feel as though they've got everything figured out and they start to rely more on their assumptions than on new information. It's akin to thinking. “I'm experienced in life, I've seen it all. I'm smart.”

Why does assumption start:
I personally believe it is a short cut to avoid a conversation? Sometimes you will not like to speak with someone and yet will have to deal with him/her for some reason, so, for less important things you start assuming the outcome of a question in your mind and take it for given. Knowing the risk of such assumption is not going to be fatal.

There are in life we come across people who know it all kinds. Friends and relatives start assuming they already know about events that may be news to them and stop sharing it with such people believing it to be a waste of time. However it may not be the case.

Consequences of Assuming:
Assumptions are generally biased. You tend to believe the way your mind will have you believe and become distant from actual reality. Though now days a professional assumption of data is challenged by co workers in order to correct the thought process, personal life assumptions are dangerous. Assuming in interpersonal behavior can be misunderstood and detrimental to cordiality

Coming back to my opening paragraph, I have observed in relations with family and friends there is a huge element of assumption that keeps a person unhappy. A simple enquiry is many times avoided because of biased assumption.

Have you ever tried to explain something so seemingly simple, to someone and they just don’t understand it no matter what? It can be frustrating, sure. But chances are you assumed they knew more about the topic than they actually did.

The right approach would’ve been to ask a few questions beforehand to gauge your audience’s level of knowledge on the topic. Then you give your explanation, shaping the conversation around their knowledge.


When we stop assuming or judging people:
It can change the way you view someone or treat them in your life. Having a different perspective can aid you into being the help that someone might desperately need. Whether that be an ear to listen to, a distraction for them, or even to have one person who will not place labels, judgments, stereotypes, or biases against them can make more of an impact than you think. That person could be on the edge of a breakdown, overdosing, or even considering suicide. Life is so precious. As people, we need to do a better job at taking care of one another. Everything we do or say has a positive or negative impact on the people around us, whether we know them or not. Please choose to be a positive impact.

I may sometimes ask you an inappropriate question for I never Assume :-)